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Are You Setting Yourself Up for Failure?

Failure… this so happens to be one of my fears. The thought that I could work so hard to be happy and proud of myself and never seeing my dreams materialize scares the hell out of me. We however hardly know what will work and what won’t. There is no sure-formula that has been test-proven to guarantee that everything you do in life will succeed. While some things can be beyond our control, some of our failures come from our own actions. Some of our actions are things we can control, but we carry on in these bad habits.

Are you self-sabotaging? Are you setting yourself up for failure? Here are 5 signs that your actions will make you to fall, face down, in the dirt.

You Make Excuses

…and other people are starting to notice that you do. We all make excuses for why things can’t work. It’s a common internal struggle. However when other people start telling you that you like to make excuses, you’re headed in the wrong direction. Excuses happen when you’re scared of reaching a goal or when you didn’t commit to the goal in the first place.

You can conquer this bad habit by deciding to overcome your fears. If you’re not interested in meeting a goal, be honest about that from the beginning. Learn to say “no” more so that you can avoid wasting yours and other people’s time and resources.

You accept Problems as they are and seek no solution

When faced with a problem, you tell yourself “It is what it is. I can’t do anything about this. I’m stuck.” You then go ahead living in misery, waiting for a magic answer to your problem. You even start to pretend the problem doesn’t exist. When you accept that “it is what it is” you might miss the opportunity to get out, simply because you settled.

No matter how bad a problem is, you’re never stuck there. You may feel like you exhausted all your options, but remember that there is always a light at the end of the tunnel. So don’t stop trying to find a solution.

You constantly have negative thoughts

You are what you think and if you’re always expecting the worst, then you shall get the worst. Try and have a more positive outlook on life. Think good things for yourself and encourage those around you to be more positive too.

You stay disappointed in yourself

It’s okay to be disappointed in your life choices. It is however not okay to STAY disappointed. If you stay focused on “shoulda-coulda-woulda’s” you will never be able to move on. So instead of wallowing in self-pity, go ahead and forgive yourself for the mistakes you made, take note of the lessons learned and move on.

You’re too comfortable

You do the same thing, day in and day out. You do not challenge yourself or try anything new. All this, yet you expect to have different results every time. You cannot grow when you stay monotonous. If you want change in your life but are too comfortable to MAKE that change happen, then you’re already failing yourself. If you’re not going to make a change, then you don’t deserve to complain about how you’re not earning enough money/getting a job, your boyfriend doesn’t treat you right… yada, yada, yada…

Get out of that comfort zone, or be a failure!


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